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A vision board is a tool to keep you focused towards your goals. Vision boards do not necessarily magically bring things into your life (though they can). Generally speaking, however, a vision board works because what we focus on most is what we act on. What we focus on is what we tend to see. When your goals and desires are forefront of your mind you are more likely to see the opportunities to reach them that are right in front of you. Here is an experiment from the brilliant Tony Robins. Look around the room you are in right now and notice everything that is brown.  ...  ...  ...  ... Now close your eyes and name everything in the room that is green. The point is that we tend to see more of what we focus on and sift out everything else. Opportunities are all around you when you learn to shift your focus. A vision board is an automatic focus shifting tool to keep your desires front and center. Create a vision board so that your deepest desire...

Your expectations of others affect how they interact with you! Do you often think about what other people will say? The only thing you can control is you AND how you show up influences how people react to you!  Examples:  Imagine this . Your alarm doesn’t go off and you wake up 1 hour after you should have been at work! As you rush to get ready and run out the door you anticipate your boss’s reaction. More than likely, if you are worried about their reaction it is because you have experienced them reacting negatively to you in the past. Realistically the way they reacted to you in the past has been a pattern in your life. Figures of authority generally react this same way when you “screw up”. So you show up to work and sure enough! Your boss reacts to your tardy exactly the way you predicted and you give yourself a mental high five for being right about other people once again. Imagine this . Your man’s best friend has been abusing his girlfriend behind c...

Everyone is doing the best that they can. If they could do better they would.  When I first heard this concept I did not fully agree. I thought, of course people could do better, I could do better. In the arena of self development there is an incredible buzz around the concept, everything is a choice. Taking personal responsibility for your thoughts, feelings, and responses to the circumstances of life is the first step to personal freedom and transformation. As long as your thoughts feelings and actions are dictated by the people places and things outside of yourself, you have no power and no choice in the direction and quality of your life. This is an incredibly empowering way of thinking. If it's meant to be, It's up to me! I used to think that people who judged, shamed, insulted, and abused me were simply not taking responsibility for themselves. I thought "they can do better", and this thought caused me to be confused by the negative actio...

Anxiety is an all too present state for many of us today. An estimated 40 million adults in the United States suffer from some form of anxiety. With so many medications and treatments available it is a wonder the numbers continue to rise.  Anxiety seems to be a "normal" part of the world we are living in.  The truth is our society is ridden with fear, doubt, suffering, and mistrust. Many of us are told as children that our dreams are not possible. "I want to be an artist". "I want to be a ballerina".  "I want to be a rock star". And then we hear, "you can't do that". "It's not practical". "You have very little chance of succeeding, don't even bother". Sometimes the messages are subtle. Sometimes they are more direct.  "Who do you think you are to think your dreams are possible". This is the message most of us received as children and carry with us to this day.  Many of us do not know ...