CHANGE YOUR EXPECTATIONS - CHANGE YOUR LIFE

Your expectations of others affect how they interact with you!

Do you often think about what other people will say?

The only thing you can control is you AND how you show up influences how people react to you! 

Examples: 

Imagine this. Your alarm doesn’t go off and you wake up 1 hour after you should have been at work! As you rush to get ready and run out the door you anticipate your boss’s reaction. More than likely, if you are worried about their reaction it is because you have experienced them reacting negatively to you in the past. Realistically the way they reacted to you in the past has been a pattern in your life. Figures of authority generally react this same way when you “screw up”. So you show up to work and sure enough! Your boss reacts to your tardy exactly the way you predicted and you give yourself a mental high five for being right about other people once again.

Imagine this. Your man’s best friend has been abusing his girlfriend behind closed doors. She approaches you when the guys are out of the room clearly asking for help or guidance. Later you plan to approach your man about the situation with his friend and begin to anticipate his reaction. If you are worrying about his reaction chances are you are expecting his reaction to be the same as all the other past reactions. Realistically he will react the same way he did in the past and every other male figure in your life all the way back to your father. Sure enough! Your boyfriend reacts exactly the way you anticipated and you get to feel small and dumb all over again.

The only thing you have control over is you.

AND

You influence the people around you.

You really won’t get what i am talking about until you experience it for yourself but let me put it this way…

WHEN YOU ARE ANTICIPATING HOW SOMEONE WILL REACT -

ONE - you are perpetuating the past

TWO - you are setting your energy (which others will pick up on)

THREE - You are actually intention setting

(If this is not making sense please read one of the above examples)

When you walk into that meeting with your boss your energy, your facial expression, your body language, and you speech are all telling a story.

They are all influencing your boss’s reaction to you!

What happens is the reaction you are influencing matches the one you anticipated.

anticipation of their reaction creates - your ways of being which influence - their reaction!

Unless the person is consciously choosing to react to you differently than how you are showing up chances are you will get exactly what you came for. 

HOW CAN THIS TRANSFORM YOUR LIFE

ONE - Break old patterns of behavior by choosing to interrupt your anticipation. When we anticipate from a place of worry we are perpetuating the past. Interrupt yourself by choosing to let go of the story you have created about what will happen in the future.  

TWO - When you feel good about you, so does everyone else. Choose empowering interpretations of the future in any given circumstance because heck, it doesn’t exist yet! ONLY YOU decide what is and is not possible for your future.

THREE - Intention is spell casting! Whether you call it law of attraction, coincidence, or fate the fact remains that INTENTION SETTING WORKS! What most people don’t realize is that you are creating intentions constantly! The way you expect others to act and react to you is one example. Use this awareness to your advantage! 

The next time you are about to go into a difficult conversation with someone, instead of anticipating the worst, get really clear on your ideal outcome! If you go in with your ideal outcome in mind, the whole interaction will be transformed! guaranteed!